Women in Male Fields
My favourite TikTok trend and the 2025 dating trend you need to adopt.
Out of all of the TikTok trends this year, the Women in Male Fields trend is hands-down my favourite. If you’ve somehow missed it (unlikely), it’s where women share their dating experiences through the lens of toxic male behaviours in heterosexual relationships.
Examples? Brutal doesn’t even begin to cover it:
“He sent me a paragraph of how he felt and I replied with ‘Idk what you want me to say.’” #womeninmalefields
“He was crying in bed so I said ‘here we go again’ and turned around and fell asleep.” #womeninmalefields
“When I tell him ‘ugh I want to see you so bad’ after putting 0 effort into seeing him.” #womeninmalefields
“Left him on read while being active on every form of social media & said ‘sorry I’m never on my phone.’” #womeninmalefields
“Liking his story every few months after ghosting him, just to make sure he never fully moves on.” #womeninmalefields
Everyone participating in this trend ate and left no crumbs.
But as funny as the videos are, it’s also wild how many of us relate. Have we all been dating the same person??
What I love about this trend is how it makes women feel seen. Sharing these experiences removes the shame and embarrassment we might’ve carried from dating these absolute clowns. Instead, it lets us laugh, bond, and realise we’re not alone in our most chaotic dating moments. Even the most toxic scenarios have comments like “literally my life” or “how have we all been there?”
The deeper message here? By talking about these behaviours, we’re able to call them out for what they are: toxic. When you’re in the thick of it—rose-coloured glasses on—it’s easy to excuse bad behaviour. You think, “Surely, he’s not that inconsiderate or cruel.” But yes, yes, he is. The more we share these stories, the clearer it becomes: this isn’t love.
Which brings me to Bumble’s 2025 dating trends. I recently attended their intimate dinner, which revealed what’s next in the world of modern dating, and one trend stood out as the perfect partner for Women in Male Fields: DWM (Date With Me).
According to Bumble, 41% of singles are embracing more authentic dating and relationship content—think GRWMs, hard launches, post-date debriefs, and even live-streamed breakups. The more we share our experiences—both the cringy and the romantic—the easier it becomes to spot the green and red flags.
And speaking of green flags, future-proofing is my personal favourite 2025 trend. Bumble found that 59% of women are prioritising stability in dating. Emotional consistency, reliability, and clear life goals—what a concept.
Here’s why I’m into it: future-proofing is about getting clear on what you want before you even go on a date. If you know your values and stick to them, you’ll stop wasting time on people who were never going to give you what you deserve. And yes, it might mean fewer dates because men who aren’t ready for a real relationship will naturally fall off. But trust me: those guys were always going to waste your time. The right person will see your standards as a green flag—and that’s who you want anyway.
The takeaway?
Whether it’s TikTok trends or Bumble’s insights, one thing is clear: showing up authentically and knowing what you want is the ultimate dating strategy. So ditch the compromises, set your standards, and swipe with purpose. Your future self will thank you for leaving the toxic dating behaviours where they belong—on your TikTok feed.
Another update
Ok, ok, I know I did this last week, but I’ve been listening to your feedback (thank you, seriously!), and I’ve made a tweak to the paid subscriber benefits. You told me you want more access to personalised dating advice, so here’s the update:
The Subscriber-only Q&A will now run weekly to tackle your dating dilemmas, while so unhinged Exposed will drop monthly on the first Friday of every month.
Have more feedback? I’m all ears—let me know what else you’d love to see!
Soph x